Comrade

I shared about my fellow โ€œcomradeโ€ during my stay at the hospital (KKH). Patient T – more commonly known as Madam Tan โ€“ went through a very similar predicament as me. Right now it is comforting to know that both our babies are growing strong and healthy.

Some interesting similarities that bonded the friendship between both families (adapted in English from Mdm Tan’s blog):

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  1. Both of us were pregnant with our first baby boy.
  2. Both of us had burst water bag between 21 to 23 weeks of gestation and were admitted into the same ward with beds facing each other.
  3. Both of us love to hide behind our curtains in the ward; eating durians! ๐Ÿ˜› (because we heard that durians will help our babies put on weight! But clearly this old wivesโ€™ tale didnโ€™t work for me!)
  4. Both of us have loving hubbies who came to the hospital after work everyday without fail to visit us. Both hubbies bear all things in silence; willingly and lovingly supported us throughout the entire pregnancy in the hospital. ๐Ÿ™‚
  5. Both of us have mothers who are super-women! Both mothers will go to the hospital everyday; bringing healthy home-cooked food which we readily shared among both families.
  6. Amazingly โ€“ both of us gave birth to our sons at gestational week 31+ 1 day!
  7. Both our babies were born in July โ€“ Xi En was born on 31st July and Yuan Hao was born on 13th July. Think about it.. rare to come by 2 dates who are opposite digits within the same month!

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So many coincidences (or God-incidences to us) have created an invisible bonding between both families. It is also probably because no one will understand better than a fellow โ€œcomradeโ€ who went through the same โ€œsufferingโ€. I am thankful for Mdm Tan because she had taught me resilience and in the midst of โ€œdarknessโ€; we supported each other. ๐Ÿ™‚

Both of us can definitely see this friendship continuing to our sonsโ€™ generation!

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Xi En & Yuan Hao

Naming Baby

Many are curious by now what we are naming our miracle baby warrior. ๐Ÿ™‚ Ok โ€“ here goes โ€“ He shall be proudly known as:

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English: ETHEN CHEN

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Mandarin:ๆ›พๅธŒๆฉ

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(Zeng Xi En)

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A check through a few naming websites generated the following meanings:

Meaning of Ethen (pronounced the same way as โ€œEthanโ€ and is an alternative way to spell it):

strong and optimistic, solid and enduring, steadfast and permanent, long-lived.

Origin: Hebrew

The coincidence is that we came up with this name even before we had all these hospital issues. So.. I think God knows best what he has in store for our baby. ๐Ÿ™‚ And yes, we โ€œhappenedโ€ to decide to choose a name that starts with โ€œEโ€ and Kim decided to use the one ending with โ€œeโ€ rather than โ€œaโ€ โ€˜cos it signifies both our union โ€“ โ€œEโ€dwin and โ€œEโ€velyn. OK.. how cheesy ya.. but when you start naming your children, you will know it is not an easy task!

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As for the Mandarin name, I really have to credit Kim for this. HE WAS THE ONE WHO CAME UP WITH IT!ย  Well..ok โ€“ I came up with โ€œenโ€. Thatโ€™s an easy one โ€˜cos I simply love โ€œenโ€ from a long time back. Though I know many Christian babies have โ€œenโ€ in their names, I still canโ€™t resist using โ€œenโ€. It kind of matches Eth-โ€œenโ€ as well! haaaโ€ฆ

As for stringing the Chinese name together, Kim had this dream (while I am in KKH) that our baby will become an Obstetrics and Gynaecology (O&G for short) doctor who specialises in high risk pregnancies in the future! hahaโ€ฆ What silly dream you might say.. but the main aim is that we want baby to be a useful person who will contribute positively back to society in the future (especially since his birth hadnโ€™t come easy!!!). So Kim wanted a Chinese word that resonate that.

He wanted a name that signify: hope (ๅธŒๆœ› โ€“ xi1 wang1) or miracle (ๅฅ‡่ฟน qi2 ji4). After talking out loud for a while, we found out that ๅธŒๆฉ sounded prefect-o! ๐Ÿ™‚ So baby can tell people his Chinese name is hope (ๅธŒ) and gratitude or grace (ๆฉ)!

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Donโ€™t you just love the whole naming process? ๐Ÿ™‚

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Kim copying baby's chinese name from a dictionary. What a serious look!

Kim copying baby's chinese name from a dictionary. I love the serious look! ๐Ÿ™‚

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Week 20 to 21: In and Out .. of hospital

Yes.. I was in and out of hospital again this week. Cause: Heavy bleeding and cramps (AGAIN). Kim had to rush me into hospital in the middle of the night after we called gyn for her advice. As usual, got a jab and rested in bed. Some nurses recognised me – โ€œdidnโ€™t you just left??โ€ โ€“ yes.. I gave a tired smile. What do you want me to say? โ€œI missed you all; so I am back to visit earlier than expected?โ€ ok.. me and my grumpy attitude coming out.ย 

I donโ€™t understand โ€“ I didnโ€™t stepped out of my house, I didnโ€™t move much at home, I didnโ€™t do anything wrong!!!!! WHY?? Why must this happen to me time and time again? It is really one emotional roller coaster โ€“ not just for me but for Kim and mum as well. Of course, we are exhausted; but we are reminding bb everyday to stay strong and healthy โ€“ we love him and we canโ€™t wait to see him (not too early of course!).

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This time round.. there isnโ€™t any novelty in a hospital stay anymore. The food doesnโ€™t taste as great anymoreโ€ฆ think I am just โ€œoverโ€ it โ€“ I wanna go home! boo booโ€ฆ ๐Ÿ˜ฆ

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Lots of friends are reminding me to stay positive and think happy thoughts. I am; I am trying.

A friend just told me that her little girl was down with hfmd recently but all she wanted to doย was to play! haa.. this reminded me that actually kids are really innocent and most of the time do not see problems the same way as adults. They possess a sense of innocence and โ€œcare-free-nessโ€ in them to actually overcome the sicknesses or problems without magnifying them.

I realised this is the same as the little one in me. Though this is not the first time I am experiencing severe bleeding and cramps; it always seemed that he is perfectly fine (kicking and moving actively) whenever gyn does a scan during our โ€œemergenciesโ€. It seemed that he is oblivious to what is going on around his โ€œhouseโ€!! Whatever bleeding, whatever placenta detachment, whatever cramps โ€“ he always looked so happy swimming in his โ€œpoolโ€! When his parents are worried sick, he never failed to comfort them with his innocence. ๐Ÿ™‚

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Yes, stay positive, think happy thoughts, look at happy babiesโ€™ pictures, remind my little one to stay strong and healthy. ๐Ÿ™‚

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praying boy

my all time fav pic - i titled it "the praying boy"

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